“You’ll Just Know”: Finding The Right Wedding Gown

There is said to be a moment in every woman’s life, as she stands before a mirror in a wedding dress shop, and all suddenly feels right with the world. She is at one with the gown she is wearing, and she knows in her heart of hearts – just as she did with her husband to be – that this is the gown for her.

While this sounds wonderful and romantic, and there is undeniably some truth in it, the whole tale can actually make things worse for brides who are struggling to find their wedding dress. The big, white gown is one of the most enduring images of a wedding, and many brides have been thinking of the kind of thing they want since they were a small child.

Yet no one looks at the search for a wedding gown in its true light: this is one of the most stressful decisions, particularly in terms of clothing, that most women will ever have to make. The wedding gown will be looked at and scrutinized by all guests, it will be there in the photographs for years to come and it needs to feel and look right for the bride. Finding something that is applicable for all of these uses can be a deeply upsetting experience, particularly if that utter sense of “just knowing” doesn’t happen.

One of the most popular responses to a saddened bride exclaiming that, even after many sessions in wedding shops, she has not found her gown, is that she simply hasn’t found the right one yet. The myth of the absolute knowledge and feeling of right adds to the frustration of not having made a decision, and all this at a time of life that is acknowledged as one of the most stressful things a person can ever do.

So how does one cope with not having had that feeling and still not finding the dress of their dreams? Well, it may be time to start looking outside the box. If you have tried on a lot of similar dresses, it’s good to start considering options you had previously discounted as not for you. You may find that something you’d never thought of wearing actually feels right on you and you like the look. There is nothing wrong with searching until you are happy, even if that happiness is a general contentment and not that so trumpeted fated feeling. As long as you feel comfortable and attractive in your dress, the rest is largely irrelevant.